I went through a crappy separation.
But there’s me, with my new baby boy and my awesome new husband.
It gets better, promise.
I should probably start with the formal stuff, though.
I am a lawyer who has worked in family law, domestic violence, and child protection. I have a Masters in Applied Laws majoring in Family Law and Family Dispute Resolution and am an accredited Family Dispute Resolution Practitioner. Which is probably obvious.
I’ve also been a real estate agent and a performer in Nightmares at Dreamworld, where I got to jump out and scare people and get paid for it, which was awesome, but I promise not to scare you. Or jump out of anywhere without notice.
When I completed my law degree, I refused to study family law. I didn’t want a bar of it. It was too icky, full of human variables and unpredictable emotion that I had no intention of dealing with day to day. However, at the end of my degree, I was offered a chance to shadow a family lawyer turned mediator in an FDR session. I liked it. A lot.
Fast forward a few years and I was working in family law, running between my office and the courts, hastily drafting documents to meet deadlines and worrying more about technicalities and procedures than the shattered, exhausted, mystified clients sitting before me. It was awful.
Before I embraced family law, though, I separated from my first husband. As with anyone going through a separation, I had no clue where to start or what to do. I also had limited ability to obtain legal advice, and no textbooks to refer to because ‘past me’ had decided she wouldn’t study family law. Genius.
The long story short is that I got to contest my property settlement in writing between myself and my ex-husband’s lawyers. It was awful, and in hindsight I gave myself very poor legal advice on that matter. Very poor.
My takeaway, though, was that resolving issues after separation means so much more than the legalities and the practicalities. Ultimately, my primary concern was my own wellbeing, that of the family and friends supporting me, and achieving finality to my separation so all of us could move on.
My goal in doing this is to offer a service that is accessible and can be tailored to suit the needs of regular people, people who work, people who have responsibilities to children, family, plants, I don’t care. I simply want to get people in, and out, of the separation sphere as efficiently and effectively as possible, with my best endeavours at a ‘do no harm’ approach. Take my bad experience, and let me make it your better one.
Separation is hard. Let me help.